With valentines day around the corner i wanted to blog on what i think Love is.
From watching Disney movies you may have an expectation on what Love maybe… a Knight in shining armour ready to save you from the mundane life you lead…a beast you can change and save, transforming him into the person who can be loved, helping them reveal their softer side or maybe the prince isnt all he is cracked up to be, putting on a front to woo you, yet you see past it all and fall for him anyway. Who didnt dream of the fairy tale ending? Girl or Boy, we ALL want to be Loved.
So, what is Love anyway? Is it just a chemical reaction sending us all crazy? Or is it something deeper, keeping us alive, helping us grow? Is it in the way we feel? Or is it in how we responde to a situation? The sacrifices we make, the adapatations we take.
I think its ALL these things & more.
Growing up, Love is being nurtured, whether that be from a parent, carer,sibling,cousin or friend.
Love is having someone sacrifice their time in order to make your moments count.
It’s in a hug or converstation, its listening when someone needs a friend or someone making your favourite dinner or drink without requesting so first.
Love is in those moments you’re about to fall asleep and you feel your parent or partner pull the covers up to just under your chin to keep you warm and stroke your hair out of your face to make you comfortable.
Its in your favourite memories or songs and sharing stories with another so they can share your happiness too!
Love is knowing when someone is hurting or afraid and just BEING THERE for them, no matter how busy you are or no matter how much you don’t know what to say, Love is a verb, Its a doing word, being there is doing something deeply, even when you can’t feel the effects yourself.
Love is in the memories that make you smile now and that you can share and indwell into your children, its about wanting to give your children the kind of upbringing you had, embracing nostalgia & instilling a hope of a good future, even if yours wasnt the best.
Love is about raising someone up, instead of dragging them down. Its about wanting THE BEST out of the person and wanting nothing to benefit out of it yourself.
Love is in a smile to a stranger or giving someone a seat on a bus who needs it more than you. Its giving out change to the homeless or maybe a hot drink & food.
Love is making time to talk to someone, listening to their ideas and hopes and encouraging them, you don’t have to agree on everything but support is always welcomed.
Love is picking someone up when things have gone wrong & not boasting with “I told you so” statements but instead saying “Just keep trying or lets see how we can adapt the situation” its about looking at all paths and encouraging the right one.
Love is in those moments you don’t want to clean the house or do the dishes but knowing it will demolish any tention that could lead to an unwanted row about the house being a mess, so you put your feelings aside and do it anyway!
Love is making the effort to see someone when all you want to do is stay in bed and be lazy!
Love is selfless, its about putting the needs of others first and letting you be second…but knowing you are still just as important.
Love is sending a text, letter or giving a phone call to let someone know you are thinking of them.
Love is asking the person who looks sad, is everything ok? No matter what the response, you’ve tried.
Love is being happy for other peoples accomplishments. Rejoicing in their victories. Even if you have failed.
Love is deeper than romance & butterflies. Its different than physical attraction & sex. You may Love the person you do these things with…but you may not always be able to do those things & its about knowing when those moments are appropriate or even wanted and if those things were taken away, how would it change the way you feel? Its discerning & bypasses the physical & materalism.
I think the best way to describe what love is, is in this verse:
Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It does not envy
It does not boast
It is not proud.
It does not dishonor others
It is not self-seeking
It is not easily angered
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects
LOVE NEVER FAILS.
I think Love is something the world needs more of.
So this valetines day, why don’t you be the knight in shining armour, show a stranger what Love is. Make someone else have a fairy tale day! Even if its in just something small, You never know how much it could change someones day!